There are lots of really good reasons (and maybe a few not-so-good ones) for putting off getting the help, treatment, and support you need to recovery from borderline personality disorder or other self-harming behaviors.

Here are just 10:

1. Getting better requires lots of really hard work.

2. It's easier to resign yourself to the idea that you cannot be happy due to previous mistakes or past abuse, neglect, or other traumatic events.

3. At least you know what to expect when you stay in bed all day.

4. You cannot imagine a life that's not dictated by your emotions and roller-coaster mood swings.

5. You don't have the money, time, insurance, or it's just too far to travel to health care professionals and treatment programs.

6. Fear of failure. Again.

7. Asking for help leaves you feeling too vulnerable.

8. You're waiting for someone else to change first.

9. Family members and friends will begin to go away if they think you are better and no longer need them.

10. Even DBT creator Marsha Linehan says that all therapists act like "jerks" at one time or another.

What's next?

What are you telling yourself today? What are your reasons?

Sometimes obstacles can become opportunities. Please let me know if I can help.

I can be reached by email at amanda@hopeforbpd.com.